Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans

It is so very easy to follow routines every day, release the brakes on the weekends,  or days off, and let “life [be], what happens to you, while you’re busy making other plans”, as John Lennon famously sang. If  you look back and find too much time has passed by without you really being aware of it, perhaps these five suggestions from Marc and Angel can help re-set your focus and experience all you can from life, as opposed to simply existing. I have added my own ‘take’ on their words that comes from my experience.


1.  Appreciate the great people and things in your life. – Sometimes we don’t notice the things others do for us until they stop doing them.  Don’t be like that.  Be grateful for what you have, who loves you, and who cares for you.  You’ll never know how much they mean to you until the day they’re no longer beside you.  Truly appreciate those around you, and you’ll soon find many others around you.  Truly appreciate life, and you’ll find that you have more of it to live.*

*My take on Point 1:  I think I will say or do one thing to the precious people in my life, today to let them know I really appreciate them. It is too easy to let the days slide by and take them for granted and they will never know how you felt.

2.  Ignore other people’s negativity. – If you allow people to make more withdrawals than deposits in your life, you will be out of balance and in the negative before you know it.  Ignore un-constructive, hurtful commentary.  No one has the right to judge you.  They may have heard your stories, but they didn’t feel what you were going through.  You do not have control over what others say; but you do have control over whether you allow them to say these things to you.  You alone can deny their poisonous words from invading your heart and mind. *

  • My slant: No one has the right to judge you. This is important to remember both for our self-talk and when someone might be aggressive or rude. But it is also desirable to let go of this urge to ‘control’ and ‘be right.’ These awful words are the ones that slide off your back  and don’t stick!

3.  Be who you really are. – If you’re lucky enough to have something that makes you different from everybody else, don’t change.  Uniqueness is priceless.  In this crazy world that’s trying to make you like everyone else, find the courage to keep being your awesome self.  And when they laugh at you for being different, laugh back at them for being the same.  It takes a lot of courage to stand alone, but it’s worth it.  Being YOU is worth it!*

*My take: Much of our early lives is about conformity. At daycare, primary and high school, it is all about fitting in, being the same because that is easier for those around you. Do you really want to be just the same as others? No, because your life is different to theirs, so why try to distort it. If you find it hard to exude confidence in being yourself, pretend, and practise. It is not as hard as you think. You will overcome in the end. What a boring world it would be if everyone was the same? Celebrate and feel good about your differences from others. Laughter is a great antidote to cynicism.

4.  Forgive those who have hurt you. – I forgive people, but that doesn’t mean I trust them.  I just don’t have time to hate people who hurt me, because I’m too busy loving people who love me.  The first to apologize is the bravest.  The first to forgive is the strongest.  The first to move forward is the happiest.  Be brave.  Be strong.  Be happy.  Be free.* Me: I’m still working on being strong and brave.

5.  Let go when you must. – It’s not always about trying to fix something that’s broken.  Some relationships and situations just can’t be fixed.  If you try to force them back together, things will only get worse.  Sometimes it’s about starting over and creating something better.  Strength shows not only in the ability to persist, but in the ability to start over again with a smile on your face. *

  • My take: Persistence is always rewarded. Letting go is difficult, as familiarity is so comforting. Change might feel threatening but deal with it, one step at a time. Change is a natural part of life and your individual journey.

The final words from Marc and Angel:

What you do every day matters more than what you do every once in a while.  What you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it…

Something to Ponder About

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About Forestwoodfolk

Scandinavian culture, literature and traditions are close to my heart, even though I am Australian. I have Scandinavian, Frisian and Prussian/Silesian ancestry and for that reason, I feel a connection with that part of the world. I am an avid Nordic Crime fiction reader, and enjoy photography, writing and a variety of cooking and crafts, and traditional decorative art forms. Politically aware and egalitarian by nature, I have a strong environmental bent.
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6 Responses to Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans

  1. sueslaght says:

    Excellent post. I really like’ Be who you really are’. I think that one is a big key to happiness.

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  2. suzjones says:

    I subscribe to Marc and Angel. They have some great stuff.
    Thanks 🙂

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  3. This is a great post and we will definitely take this on board. It is very easy at times to get swept up in negativity to not think straight… Actually needed this VERY much today so thank you! The post was very timely!

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