Young girls are pretty much divided into two camps – generally speaking. You are either a PINK or a PURPLE girl.
As each person’s eye sees colour, and variations of hue, a little differently and individually to the next, what is one person’s dreamy hue might be something another person intensely dislikes.

Pink or Purple?
When we are young and asked what about our favourite colour, most girls will answer pink or purple. Very rarely, yellow or any other colour. This usually translates to little girls wearing predominantly either pink-coloured or purple-coloured clothes and decorations.
And never the Twain shall meet.
Just as most young boys will preference red as their favourite colour. At least in Australia, this is the pattern that we regularly see and hear, with young children.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that a Pink girl won’t wear, or use, other colours at all. It only means that when you ask a young girl what her favourite colour is, she will generally answer “Pink,” or she will answer, “Purple.”
It’s a thing.

The Princess top in the above photo was purchased in Legoland in Denmark and was highly sought after in the Pre-school crowd at my daughter’s Kindergarten, especially so as it was unobtainable, in Australia. Fights even broke out, between the girls, over who got to wear it and there was lots of pouting from the ones that missed out. I had to ban the top from being worn to Kindergarten. My guess is the pink girls were the ones fighting.
One day a play date with a four-year-old friend of my daughter ended in tears. The little girl refused to leave our house unless she was allowed to take the Princess top home with her! My daughter naturally refused such an offer.
As for me: I used to be a purple girl, never a pink girl, but life changes you.

I had a wishy-washy lilac painted room as a child, as pastels were really the fashion. Yet, I have way too much Scandi genetic material to be completely sold on pastels, so a more cleaner, intensive colour is my choice these days. Yet looking through my WordPress archives, I note that most of my photos are indeed shades of purple, usually in the form of flowers.
I did find this gaudy ‘Pet Expo’ photo hidden in my archives:

We also see lots of pink in nature.
Or is it purple?

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I think girls are funnelled into those options by clothing manufacturers, which is sad. My favourite colour as a child was blue, I abhorred pink and any pastel colours.
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YOu could be right, Jane. Media does have a really big influence. Not so much in my childhood years, but surely today with devices in children’s lives from a very early age, they must be vulnerable to subliminal suggestions of “cool?’
And Yay for you bucking the trend! There were some girls who didn’t fit the pink or purple mould!
Blue – a Nordic shade of blue, is ONE of my favourite colours as an adult, although nothing really stands out like it did as a child.
Do you have a real favourite now?
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Aqua blue with cherry red a close second.
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Aqua blue – lovely. That reminds me of the glacial fed lakes and rivers in Switzerland and New Zealand. Gorgeous. I would jump in them for a swim if they weren’t so darn cold!
Cherry red – for clothes?
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Red for jackets, T-shirts, absolutely! I love colour.
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Good on you! Red is energizing and powerful!
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I’m with Janet on this one. I hated pink and purple, loved red!
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Interesting, Sheree! I also disliked pastel but bright pinks and purples are definitely okay.
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Then I am in your camp. The brighter and bolder the better – for decorating. I do wear paler pink in clothing occasionally but not pastels…..
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I was never interested in pink or purple as a child because we just used what mum gave us and I can’t remember any pink. I’m also not n pink person. My skin is more brown/orange than pink. I need to wear apricot and that just does wonders to my skin colour.
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Apricot comes in some beautiful shades. I think it looks especially good when you have some olive undertones in your skin, as many Europeans do. I have only recently started wearing it and only in summer, when I have tanned up a bit. It would definitely suit you.
Do you pick the same colours for quilting projects as you do in clothing colours, Ineke?
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I try not to pick them but at the end it usually goes to the more apricot tones. I love red, it’s my favorite color and it suet me well too.
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Red is a power colour. I read that is one the reasons that women wear red jackets or skirts to job interviews.
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Aha now you”re telling me! Not that I’m interested in finding a job anyway.
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Hehe. Redundant information but maybe useful to tell Bea in coming years!
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This is quite an interesting topic, Amanda, since we all see colors differently. I’ve never liked pink, though my grandma used to buy me lots of pink clothes when I was little and I had to wear them coz there was nothing else to wear. I wonder why she never thought to ask me which colors I liked! But I know she meant well ❤️ Anyway, my favorite color has always been blue. So no pink/purple choice here! Though purple is ok, I don’t dislike it. I think I even had a purple backpack at some point as a kid. I do like pastels. The only pink-ish shade I like is coral. About seeing colors differently, as a teen I had a pair of Diesel jeans that I liked. They were beige and they were the only clothes I had gotten to pick myself. I wore them all the time. Then one day, years later I was looking at an old photo of me: the jeans looked pink!! I asked my mum and she said ”oh you mean your pink jeans?” The whole time, I had been seeing my favorite jeans in a different color than everyone else!!! Ironically, they all saw them as the one color I don’t like! (The same thing also happened with a pair of velvet pants that were black, except everyone else saw them as blue. And a coat that was green but looked brown to others.)
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How amazing is that, Snow? Beige jeans looking pink. Isn’t there an internet meme about whether a photo of a partucular dress is navy blue or green? I remember having a debate with someone about that.
So this must affect lots of people?
I can also imagine you were really keen to buy your own clothes once you started work.
Do you choose blue clothes for the boys?
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Yes, very keen to dress the way I wanted to, though I’m not into trends but just to pick the clothes myself. It was liberating, getting a job and control of everything myself 😊 You’re right!
The boys have all sorts of colors in their wardrobe, but I do tend to lean on blue a bit
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Buying blue clothes could be attributed to the preponderance of blue infant boy clothes in the stores?
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Yes. And also, it’s my favorite color 😊
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I liked blue on little boys. Especially if they are blondies.
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Blue shirts really make blue eyes stand out 🙂
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That is true, Snow! I have eyes that are green, but they look distinctly blue when I wear certain coloured outfits, especially blue ones !
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Maybe their color is really a mix of the two?
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Quite possibly so! Almost every colour except neutrals, has a cast of another colour as an undertone. So you remember the debate about the dress?
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I remember a white and golden dress that some people saw as a completely different color. You mean this one? https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_dress
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Yes that is the one. I remember seeing it first a white and gold and later it looked a bit darker but never black and blue.
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Never black and blue for me either
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yeh… it was strange to think we could be so different and what implications that might have for fashion colours.
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Pink used to be virtually a swear word for me. I couldn’t abide it for its overtones of sickly-sweet little-princess-ness. I wouldn’t wear it as a child and nothing would have persuaded me to put my daughters in pink – or frilly white ankle-socks come to that. I’m not so hard line now, and love it in flowers and blossom – I even have a ‘dirty pink’ jumper. I can’t remember having views either way on purple – but someone said to me recently ‘Purple? So aging!’ so that knocked that one on the head!
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Well – I hear you on the pink. In fact, I didn’t realize for years that paler shades of pink suited me as I had never ever worn them. Until one day, I wore a dress with a little pink in it, to a party and was surprised at the number of compliments people made. And agree we don’t want to go for purple ‘anything,’if it does cause the impression of ageing! I wonder if that is due to the purple rinses women used to put in their hair?
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Oh, I’d forgotten about the ‘blue rinse brigade’. Heavens. Would I have joined them if I’d been that age then? I think not ….
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I quite like the blue/pink/purple tints but blonde is better 😘
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Girls tend to be conditioned to pink in the UK. Even adult women are very pink girly girls… which is confusing to me.
Here is mine:
https://photographias.wordpress.com/2020/06/05/friendly-friday-pink/
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Sorry for eavesdropping on your comment, but this reminds me of the ”Pink Lady” I used to work with 😁 We worked in clothing retail and she was 30-ish, tall and skinny and said she did gigs as a model and loved fashion. And… she only wore pastel pink. Baby pink. Ballerina pink. From head to toe, every day. I always thought, ”You said you love fashion! This is pink! It isn’t fashion!” I never did get to the bottom of her pink obsession!
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How strange! She sounds like she was OCD about pink. Lol.
I can imagine her ‘boudoir’ all being pink on the walls and soft furnishing too!
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Probably conditioned since she was a baby that girls wear pink 😦
p.s- eavesdrop anytime and join the discussion!
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Eavesdropping is welcome at StPA.
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So this pink phenomenon is more prevalent in UK?
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There was a TV program I’ll never forget about conditioning in children. They said boys and girls are exactly the same up to 7 years old. Then they start changing. The children were so conditioned already at that age, girls didn’t believe in themselves and saw themselves less capable than boys in any physical activity. They also thought being pretty was the end all of their existence, a message they got from their parents and from what they wore. Boys were very competitive and incapable of dealing with any emotion. Again that was mainly from parents and clothes, with very aggressive messages. I am lucky to know a lot of very inteligent and capable women, but all of them still think that if they don’t get married they have failed somehow…
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That is sad to hear that marriage is a sign of success for women. I would like to think it might be a feeling of satisfaction perhaps, but success? I know a few girls who don’t want to get married and are satisfied with their lives. Society’s expectations can be hard for some folk.
I had two sons and a large gap and then a daughter. The daughter had access to all the boy’s toys and if anything would have been conditioned to play with them, as we did with the boys. Driving little toy cars down makeshift ramps of cardboard across the kitchen floor. I remember one day doing this with my daughter and she just looked at the car with a vacant look on her face and turned away completely disinterested in the car activity. She was into imaginative play with Teddy bears, not so much dolls. So this example confirmed for me that the parent conditioning theory isn’t always true, at least in my experience.
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In my experience it was the same. My son was never encouraged to play with anything in particular but was always drawn to trucks and cars. I think parent conditioning is also to do with the terms they use when speaking to their children: the girls are little princesses, so cute and beautiful, and boys are little guys, so strong. How much is that to blame I really do not know…
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An interesting point you make regarding the influence of language. I aimed to encourage empathy and compassion in my sons with the result that they are gentle highly sensitive souls. Perhaps they wetter like this anyways, but it is hard not to call your daughter beautiful because in my eyes she was!
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What a shame that some women still feel the need to stick with pink. I was never into the real girly girl thing. I can’t fathom why? Is it peer pressure?
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Possibly. Or marketing. It is difficult to find girls clothes that are not pink with glitter. You still have “girl’s toys” again all pink and glittery.
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Yes, that is right. Dolls with glitter clothes are often seen.
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your little princess is absolutely adorable 😀
While I was never a pink girl as a kid, I have grown to like pink in recent years, it gives me positive vibes for some reason 🙂
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Paler pinks seem to grow on me as I age, Alexandra. Except I still dislike pastel pink, otherwise known to me as toilet-paper pink. They don’t seem to make pink toilet paper anymore but at one point Sorbent made a pastel pink paper….it wasn’t great.The Princess is now grown and would probably be mortified at the photo. Lol.
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Apparently I wasn’t one of the “most girls”. My favourite colour was blue and because I wanted to dress like a boy I wanted a pair of jeans. I didn’t get them for the longest time and had to do with tan and light brown chequered pants (possibly my mother picked them specially ugly to make skirts more attractive?). My resort came in summer when I wore a lederhose (green, no frills, not the girly red variety with hearts). 🙂 Having said that: cosmos are (one of) my favourite flowers because they remind me so much of the South African highveld (I know they are native to Australia, though). And that dog … she (it has to be a she!) looks as if she is hung over after a hard night partying with a cigarette dangling from her snout! 😀
Here is my pink entry: https://picturesimperfectblog.wordpress.com/2020/06/05/approaching-pink/
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Haha! You made me laugh, Knickers!! You have imagined well the potential life of that indulged poodle!
Smoking hot pink and purple – pun intended! Lol.
I don’t think the Cosmos are native here. Google tells me that Mexico is their original home but happy to be adoptive country for them.
You in Lederhoser? I could see that. They are very practical outfits for kids who are playing in the yard, I imagine?
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I just know that cosmos was unknown in South Africa before the Boer war and it is said to have come into the country with horse feed for the British troops from Australia. Since this is the story one reads so often it would be a major undertaking to fact check. -Yes, I liked them as a kid. I’m not sure if they are really practical especially when they get wet. As children’s outfits they have all but disappeared. I don’t think I’ve seen a child in one for ages. This might be different in the Alps. … I’ve just been thinking that maybe their decline came with the advent of good washing machines.
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I cannot speak about the decline in lederhose – only that kids clothes became a fashion item and very inexpensive at a certain time.
You could be right about the introduction of Cosmos to SA. They may have arrived from USA, Mexico or Europe to Australia first and thence to SA.
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https://nowathome.wordpress.com/2020/06/05/friendly-friday-the-colour-pink/
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I would call your cosmos pink, but it does have elements of lilac. It’s very pretty either way. As a student I had only two dresses for partying, both pink, but as a child, I don’t think I had any preference for the colour, though I did like the shapes. My favourite dresses were a green and a blue gingham!
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So far the pink/purple theory is almost completely blown, Susurrus! It may just have been an Australian thing.
And gingham was pretty popular a while back. The clothes we find which become our favourites are not always what we expect.
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Give me green.
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To match your eyes, Peggy?
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You don’t get jealousy from me.
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I thought you might be one of the green eyed clan, like me! we aren’t all jealous beings.
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Uuummm interesting! I think I see more girls in pink now that I don’t live in Spain… I’ve never been a purple or pink girl… As little, my fav color was always blue (it was always the color of my class in all schools I’ve been!!) and now it’s white, hehehe. I’ve never had a pink bedroom either…
But I guess that pink-purple vs. blue is something we get since we are born. It’s usually the to options you have when you buy baby clothes and it’s something that stays with you all your infancy. You see those girls-boys colors in cartoons in TV, in your toys….
I wonder what colors they use in other cultures!
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Interesting point, Mercedes. Do African children get exposed to the pink/purple versus blue phenomenon? I think of the colourful attire African women wear or Tibetan women and wonder if that influences the children more in their colour choice.
When you said school colour – do you mean a school uniform colour?
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My mother despised little girls wearing pastel pink, so I didn’t have any clothes in pink. Jammies yes, but day clothes no. That being said, I looked good in purple so this worked in my favor. I also had lots of red and blue [as in denim] clothes.
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Your mother was definitely not in the pink camp, although I totally agree with her on pastel pink. Reminds me of Sorbent toilet paper.
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I’ve never made that connection between pink & purple! Along with almost everyone else who’s commented, I’ve never been a pink pastel person. I’ve found though, that a by-product of growing older is a gradual preference to muted colors – natural tones and faded blues. Still though, never pink for me 🙂
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Interesting, Sandy. It appears to be more a Australian phenomenon to be set in the pink or purple camp. And muted tones as you get older – I wonder if colour states something more about us. Does it reflect mood or emotion, as Drake and I discussed on his post? I am thinking of the Goths – who wear black all the time. We mellow as we age, and maybe our colour preference aligns a little with that? I used to wear a lot of navy blue, but now prefer white and neutral colours.
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I do think our color preferences depend on context – age, personality, company and lifestyle. As well, how we use or see color depends on context. I might not wear pink but I love the pink roses that’ll bloom in my garden every summer. As for black … have you ever seen how many black suits walk around the downtown financial district on a work day? It’s soul draining 🙂 Bankers are just Goths in business suits.
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You are correct. When did they all start to adopt black as their business colour?
At least in 1995 if not before?
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First time I’ve joined in. Here is my pink (though I am a purple girl really) https://arrastoneglade.wordpress.com/2020/06/05/friendly-friday-pink/
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Welcome to Friendly Friday! From the previous comments it seemed that there was not so many who liked pink or purple fans. Glad to meet another purple girl! I will pop over and check it out. Can’t wait to see what you have come up with.
Amanda
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Your pinks are fabulous. You’ve got such a diverse selection of pinks.
I went with flowers. 😀
https://ceenphotography.com/2020/06/05/travel-words-2020-21-friendly-friday-photo-challenges-light-and-pink/
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High praise from you, Cee. Thank you! I shall pop on over to see what you have found to share.
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I like pink flowers (or purple) but was never a wearer of pink. I need richer colors that don’t wash out my skin. The “pink or purple” question reminds me of last night when my husband mentioned something about the green spatula and I said, “You mean that blue one?” 🙂
https://sustainabilitea.wordpress.com/2020/06/05/friday-flowers-curvaceous/
janet
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Aha! Another example of colour individuality! Green and blue seem to be seen quite differently by the eye. As green is made up of blue and yellow, perhaps that is why?
Do you remember the dress that was posted around on social media a few years ago, that Snow and I were discussing – the one that was either black and blue or white and gold, depending on how your eye saw it?
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I remember hearing about it but I never saw it.
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Sort of pinkish:
https://davidmsphotoblog.com/2020/06/06/friendly-friday-the-colour-pink/
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‘Sort of’ is totally fine. I am intrigued and will pop over to see what you mean, David. Thanks for joining in.
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I hated pink as a young girl and still avoid soft pinks as an adult. My choice would have been blue if asked. Even now, the clothes in my closet are mostly shades of blue. Purple is a favorite too… but blue-purples, not shades that are closer to red. I have to say, I sort of feel sorry for that dog… do you think it feels a bit foolish? 🙂
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Ah, so I see you are in the purple camp, Janis. I am a fan of blue too – the Nordic or light blues, but lately, I have bought a few royal blue items, when they were in vogue a year or so back.
I think the dog probably doesn’t care too much, but other dogs might give it a wide berth!
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