Recently, I have been writing about the skill of reflective listening as an adjunct to bettering our communication with, and understanding of, others especially when the others may have different points of view. Good listening is not easy. Bad news can be a heavy burden. Listening means overcoming roadblocks to effective communication and as such… Continue reading Better Communication Skills
It seems that the happiest lives are built on forgiveness and loving kindness that breeds contentment. If you are forgiving but still unhappy, consider the role you might have taken in life could be triggering unhappiness and discontentment. Roles in Life Limit our Self-Image The roles we set for ourselves may define and limit us.… Continue reading Why is Everyone So Unhappy?
“When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.”Ernest Hemingway A study showed that 70% of our waking hours are spent in communication with others, in some form, with almost half of that time taken up in listening. Reading, talking and writing were way down on the list. So given that we spend so much… Continue reading Communicating by Listening to What Other
Christmas time may be a source of stress or joy. Compounding those yuletide stresses, the Covid pandemic continues to rage, so there was little cause for joy in many parts of the world. Marlene inspired me to think of the year's outcomes in terms of 'gifts,' some good and of course, some bad. We'd do… Continue reading A New Year and Dealing with Intense Emotions
An ever so slight adaptation of a quote from William James. When things are grim for Christmas in your part of the world, it may help to ponder an old Norwegian saying: "behind those those dark clouds, the sky is always blue". The old Norwegians did not have an easy life through the long, harsh,… Continue reading Free to Change Ourselves
"Patience is a Virtue and I need more of it - NOW!" Have you heard anyone say that recently? Did you ever feel frustrated when someone pushed ahead of you in a queue?How do you feel when someone takes longer than expected to do a simple task at work, or doesn't complete it in a… Continue reading Overcoming Frustration
“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.” Robert Anthonywww.awakenthegreatnesswithin.com/ Blame and finding fault teaches us to avoid facing up to some truth about ourselves. It encourages us to search for what is wrong and who we think was responsible because of an underlying often unconscious belief, we carry, that infers if… Continue reading Whose Fault is it, Anyway?
"The happiness of life is made up of the little charities of a kiss or smile, a kind look, a heartfelt compliment." ~Samuel Taylor Coleridge In the wake of #Black Lives Matter, some folk appear inclined to believe that being strong is a way to win respect, when it is just a way to promulgate… Continue reading Kindness – An Antidote to Self Criticism
Are You Expecting Too Much? Is it time to evaluate or eliminate unreasonable rules and expectations. When we are feeling a bit dissatisfied with the way life is, we tend to make judgements about other's actions that are somewhat misaligned or skewed. We might miscontrue their intentions, place expectations on others and inadvertantly set up… Continue reading Dissatisfaction
Everything is a gift of the universe--even joy, anger, jealousy, frustration, or separateness. Everything is perfect either for our growth or our enjoyment." - Ken Keyes Jr. Frustration is an emotion that arises from challenges that stand in the way of us achieving our goals. How we deal with frustration depends on how much we… Continue reading Sunday sayings – Frustration Tolerance
This week in Australia, there has been many hurtful words slung in the fight for supplies in supermarkets - primarily panic buying on toilet paper. The premise is flawed as we have enough supplies and manufacture it here. But still, folks panic buy a trolley load! Brawls have erupted in the toilet paper isles of… Continue reading Sunday Sayings – Hurtful words
"No I don’t need anger management. You need to stop pissing me off."https://www.coolnsmart.com/annoying_people_quotes/ You are having a difficult day, right? The sales assistant in a local store refuses to do what you need them to do and you're running late, that new work colleague continues to micro manages every aspect of your work, (despite the… Continue reading Sunday Sayings – Annoying People
"It is the set of the sails, not the direction of the wind that determines which way we will go."