dog smelling flower wiht bird
Motivational, Philosophy

Growing More Confident

So many of us seek, even actively chase, a sense of peace and fulfillment. We enjoy the fruits of life that we find bestowed on us, in parochial measure, but can we say that we truly treat ourselves kindly or are content, with ourselves?

Ethereal

Kindness as an act, is something we do in treating and interacting with others. Whatever your beliefs, as a child of this universe, we are all deserving of kindness and respect. It is a fundamental human right.

And yet, we shy away from practising loving self-care towards our own bodies and minds, because it gives rise to feelings of guilt. Or, we see it as some kind of character flaw, a sign of weak indulgence or self-centred narcissistic navel-gazing.

Body Image and Disliking Ourselves

Some of us take this even further developing an intense hatred or discomfort with parts of our bodies, for whatever reason. We seek to change the way we look via cosmetics, surgery or decoration.

We may have been unkind to ourselves over time, seeing ourselves only through others’ eyes. It is all too easy to be hyper-critical of an imperfection, when comparing oneself to others. It is important that we see that this kind of perspective, or lens, distorts the way we think about our own bodies and our sense of self suffers. Over time, these thoughts become hard to shift.

..there is no hurt, no lost or berated part of ourselves that cannot be touched by our own loving kindness. Indeed, little kindnesses towards ourselves made habitual in daily life are enough to turn any tide, bit by bit, day by day.

Meredith Gaston

Whatever we think of ourselves, at this moment, we must not forget that we ARE INDEED unique and valuable to this world.

Countering Anxiety

In apportioning loving kindness to all, we can consciously practice self-care.

Being kind to oneself, on a regular basis, is a useful life skill which can help us more readily soothe and quell anxiety and distress in the face of difficult challenges, or thoughts.

dog smelling flower wiht bird

Furthermore, when we are kind to ourselves, (and others), we begin to see that we are indeed worthy of tenderness and this, in turn, may strengthen not only our own self- confidence, but also feelings of comfort and support.

It is never too late to be kind and loving towards ourselves. The past is gone and the future has not yet arrived. Focus on thinking that will sustain and support you.

Treat yourself with the kindness you deserve.

Community

Sunday Sayings – Love

snow cottage sweden sverige skellefteaa
Skellefteå – Sweden

Mostly anonymous, proverbs are a portal through time to generations past and echo a diverse range of cultures.

They speak of the experiences of many lessons learned and the wisdom from thousands of lives already lived.

They offer us knowledge; knowledge that is passed to us in much the same way relay runners might pass a baton. Once it’s handed over, it is up to us what we do with it and how we pass it on.

weekly proverb

“Love me when I least deserve it,

because that’s when I really need it”

~Swedish Proverb

heart love affection care


weekly quote

They say a person needs three things in life

in order to be truly happy:

someone to love,

something to do

and something to hope for –

Tom Bodett

heart light

Join in the discussion by leaving a comment.

Everyone’s opinion is important. What is yours?

~Amanda

sunday sayings at something to ponder about
heart
Community

Poetry Challenge – August prompt closing soon

A and I Poetry Challenge – August prompt

Contributions for August close soon. Publish a blog post with your poem before 30th August if you wish to be included in the round up for August:

Write a Heart Poem:

This might be a poem with lines written in the shape of a heart, or a poem about love, getting to the heart of a problem, about  folks wearing their hearts on their sleeves, or someone showing a lot of heart in competitions.

Post on your blog on or before 30th August, 2018 to be included in the link-backs.

The prompt is merely a suggestion and any topic is welcome.

Here is my contribution for August:

August prompt

When You Leave

My heart does dream of only you,

it has no time or rudder.

Until your touch is felt again,

that longing makes me shudder.

Your trust you gave implicitly

I will not lie or tease,

for in between life’s dark and light,

It ‘s you I long to please.

 

 

Hosts Blogger and writer from New Zealand, Ineke from scrapydo2.wordpress.com and Blogger, Amanda from Something to Ponder About, are jointly hosting the A and I Poetry Challenge. Amanda’s challenge is  in English and Ineke’s is in Afrikaans, (with translations in English).

The challenge is open to everyone, from complete beginners to advanced writers or aspiring poets. The challenge will run from March to October, 2018.

You can write in either language but please post a link back or comment at both WordPress blogs to indicate your interest and include the tag  A and I Poetry Challenge.

Beginner poet, hobbyist or Advanced writer – we hope you will join in with us.

For Full guidelines click here.

A and I Poetry Challenge

 

Something Lovingly Poetic to Ponder About

near roros P1000751
Community

Proverbial Friday – Global Wisdom

Proverbs and sayings offer up wise words from all corners of the world.  Best savoured a little at a time, these sayings are passed down from generation to generation. Each Friday, I post a saying, or proverb and a quote that I find thought-provoking. I hope you enjoy them as much as I do.

Each Friday, I post a Proverb or Saying and a Quote that I find thought-provoking. 

I hope you think so too.

Continuing with the theme of ‘love,’ and ‘marriage, we have a somewhat reassuring proverb from the landlocked country of Burundi.

moon

 

Where there is love, there is no darkness –

 (Burundian proverb)

 

shadow

 

It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriage –

Friedrich Nietzsche.

 

shadow

Do you agree with Nietzsche?

He is often controversial, often provocative.

Do you think this was his intention to be controversial in saying this?

After all, he had fairly fixed opinions of marriage, viewing it as a potentially lengthy conversation, in this quote:

“When marrying you should ask yourself this question: do you believe you are going to enjoy talking with this woman into your old age? Everything else in a marriage is transitory, but most of the time that you’re together will be devoted to conversation.”

 

flower

 

Proverbial Friday – Always Something to Ponder more About

Community

Proverbial Friday –

PHOTO_20140426_162615

Proverbs and sayings often provide us with wise words from all corners of the world.  Best savoured a little at a time, these sayings are passed down from generation to generation. Each Friday, I post a saying, or proverb and a quote that I find thought-provoking. I hope you enjoy them as much as I do.

Each Friday, I post a Proverb or Saying and a Quote that I find thought-provoking. 

I hope you think so too.

Hearts on waterfeature (Small)

 

Continuing our theme of love this week, a wonderful quote from a very inspirational speaker says much in its words: –

 

“I have decided to stick with Love.
Hate is too great a burden to bear.”

~ Martin Luther King Jr

 

When we hate others we are really saying to ourselves that we are okay and others are not and we allow ourselves to blame others. It is your fault! Either way hating someone else makes us feel lousy and the following proverb alludes to this:

 

Do not wrong or hate your neighbor for it is not he that you wrong but yourself –

Native American Proverb (Pima)

 

 

shadows

 

A sobering thought this Thursday at Something To Ponder About

 

 

Community

To Honour the Best Dog in the World

TIFFANY :

Your first two years were difficult, but you found your way to Schnauzer Rescue and finally to us. One of our family was a bit reluctant to have a dog, but you quickly won him over with your gentle spirit, your kindness, manners, and limitless trust.

We loved you so much, and you returned this love more than hundred-fold. You found us a whole group of like-minded, sweet, new friends, and great dog friendly places to go.

Strangers stopped us to admire and pat you, often mistaking you for a Boy Dog and we’d have to tell them that they were wrong, that you were our ‘Beautiful Bearded Lady.’

You were such a great dog, so endearing; you knew just how to care when we felt the world was against us. You helped us through the darkest times, you were there often reaching those, who no one else could reach, with your love and empathy.

I miss your intelligence, intuition, elegance and dignity;

I miss the way you wrapped your two front legs around mine when you were feeling anxious;

I miss how you would gently remind us that it was time to go – that light touch of your wet nose on my leg, or that concerted flick of my wrist off the computer mouse with your “schnauze”, when you knew it was time to prepare dinner!

You always had food on your mind!

Dog photo

You weren’t really impressed when new little sister Rebel came to live with us in your twilight years. She tried to take your bed, your mat, your couch, and your food. In true Tiffany form, you were gentle and forgiving, often taking second place to the younger model, while still guiding this ‘interloper, ‘ in the finer points of Schnauzer Border Patrol Protocols: sniffing out and removing neighbourhood vermin, possums and skinks from the property. The ‘Usurper’ became your ears when you lost your hearing and ended up as a pretty good mate to nap with.

Life wasn’t always fun for you; everyone has their troubles, but you didn’t deserve yours. Two unprovoked attacks frightened you and took you down, a cattle dog that likely mistook you for a sheep – (what an insult!) and the second, a complete ‘blindside’ by a raging psycho Amstaff, who also attacked your new little sister and nearly killed you both. It damaged you and shortened your time with us. We are sad about that.

dog beach

Even in your final weeks, you were careful to prepare us for your departure; you slowly withdrew from activities, sleeping more and more, never showing us how sad you were to leave us.

At first we didn’t want to admit you were ill; we didn’t want you to go, but even then, you made it possible for us to hold you close until the last possible moment.

And then, – and then  –   you were gone.

I cry and I cry, but I know that the tears can’t bring you back.

We grieve for your companionship, your trust, the feel of your soft velvety ears, your big soulful eyes and yes, even for the feel of that wet beard that you loved to rub all over our furniture, especially after possum hunting.

It is selfish of us, but we still want you here, with us.

You are resting now in peace.

Our gorgeous Tiffany, forever, you will be our treasured, beloved Schnauzer. We will never forget your spirit and we’ll miss you til the ends of time.

You were the BEST dog in the world.

From your Loving Family   ♥♥♥♥♥♥

Someone I will Always Ponder About

Save

Save

Save

Save

Save

Aoraki
Community

Proverbial Thursday – Global Words of Wisdom

I find there to be profound wisdom in proverbs, sayings and quotes and I marvel at the way they are so succinct in communicating messages to the reader. Mostly anonymous, they come to us from past generations and from across cultures. They speak of the experiences of lives lived and lessons learned. Quotes, like proverbs, make us think more deeply about something.

Each Thursday, I post a Proverb or Saying and a Quote that I find thought-provoking. 

I hope you think so too.

proverbial-thurs

You can’t wake a person who is pretending to be asleep –

Navajo Proverb

“And this is what really counts, not just achieving things, but the advantage you have taken of your opportunities and the opportunities you created. Each of us has to discover his own path, of that I am sure. Some paths will be spectacular and other peaceful and quiet and who is to say which is the most important? For me the most rewarding moments have not always been the great moments, for what can surpass a tear on your departure, joy on your return, or a trusting hand in yours? Most of all, I am thankful for the tasks still left to do – for the adventure still lying ahead”  –

Sir Edmund Hilary

Lunch with Edmund Hilary at 760 metres at MT Cook /Aoraki

I may be with the statue of the great mountaineer, here, but as a young child, I was fortunate enough to have him visit our school,  shortly after his  successful assault on Mt Everest. Hilary was someone who contributed to many and various social projects in Nepal, and maintained close relationships with the country and the people, all throughout his life.  This is Nepal. It touches one’s soul, and one can never completely eradicate the desire to one day, return again.

I think Hilary’s words are profound and inspiring to a younger generation for whom the conquest of the world’s highest mountain is merely not if it will be done, but how many will succeed.

What do you make of his words?

Is the Navajo quote referring to something deeper or merely pretense?

Lunch with Edmund Hilary at 760 metres at MT Cook /AorakiThat is Something to Ponder About

Save

Community

Proverbial Thursday – Global Proverb and Sayings

proverbial-thurs

I find there to be profound wisdom in proverbs, sayings and quotes and I marvel at the way they are so succinct in communicating messages to the reader. Mostly anonymous, they come to us from past generations and from across cultures. They speak of the experiences of lives lived and lessons learned. Quotes, like proverbs, make us think more deeply about something.

Each Thursday, I post a Proverb or Saying and a Quote that I find thought-provoking. 

I hope you do, as well. I would love to hear your comments on the words shared here.

Those who have free seats at a play hiss first

– Chinese Proverb

 

 

Do you agree with the Chinese proverb that those receiving things for free undervalue their gift?  If so, then are the paying customers artificially inflating the worth of the play because it has cost them the entrance ticket.

And what of the specialist paid critic, who may receive a free ticket but gets paid to do a job? is the line blurred?

 

and this:

“The only way to be cool is accidentally”

-Benjamin Taylor (son of James Taylor)

Is this necessarily true?

Ben Taylor may have felt he was ‘cool’ due to his fortuitous birth to two music icons, but what really is ‘cool?’ Is it the ability to read people and be articulate, attuned to others, empathic and an all round nice person, that makes for popularity?

The cool kids at school were not always the nicest nor the most articulate, more sassy, I think. So did they have an intangible charisma? Is this really the definition of cool?

I invite you to comment or post your thoughts.

 

Something to Ponder About this Thursday.

 

 

Save

Save

Community

Proverbial Thursday – Global words of Wisdom

I find there to be profound wisdom in proverbs, sayings and quotes and I marvel at the way they are so succinct in communicating messages to the reader. Mostly anonymous, they come to us from past and from across cultures. They speak of the experiences of lives lived and lessons learned. Quotes, like proverbs, make us think more deeply about something.

proverbs_sayings_stiftensgaard_Trondheim

Each Thursday, I post a Proverb or Saying and a Quote that I find thought-provoking. 

I hope you will too.

The proverb this week comes with thanks to Tidious Ted:

Never talk about ropes when visiting a hanged man’s family

– Spanish proverb

You can not depend on your eyes when your imagination is out of focus 

– Unknown

Stairs

And finally, this week, a quote that is subject to many interpretations:

Many a small things has been made large by the right kind of advertising

-MARK TWAIN*

*Samuel Langhorne Clemens is better known by his pen name, Mark Twain and was born on November 30, 1835…  [More: here]   Mark Twain traveled many roads during his life and patented a variety of inventions. Despite experiencing poverty during his younger years he became a household name, received a honorary doctorate and advised politicians on copyright law.

 

I can see a connection between the quotes and sayings albeit a little oblique. Tell me if you do?  If not, perhaps I have given you Something to Ponder About

Community

Proverbial Thursday – Global Words of Wisdom

proverbial-thursI find there to be profound wisdom in proverbs, sayings and quotes and I marvel at the way they are so succinct in communicating messages to the reader. Mostly anonymous, they come to us from past and from across cultures. They speak of the experiences of lives lived and lessons learned. Quotes, like proverbs, make us think more deeply about something.

Each Thursday, I post a Proverb or Saying and a Quote that I find thought-provoking. 

I hope you will too.

The greater love is a mother’s; then comes a dog’s; then a sweetheart’s –

Polish Proverb

PicsArt_1406341794280 (Small)

“I would rather be poor with lots of stories to tell, then rich with nothing to say “-

Kari Lundgren

 

The Lundgren quote reminds me that some one could be wealthy, and also feel quite lonely, yet a person might conversely remain financially poor, whilst living comfortably in an environment where there is lots of humour, company and animated conversation. Being rich is not only about money.

The Polish proverb speaks of our early experiences of love and the unique and very special love that a nurturing mother/carer can give a child. Pet Dogs, and other animals, can also be incredibly loyal to their owners, but their affection is quite different to a maternal love. But how?

This proverb reminds me that people and others may have expectations around the term Mother. We expect Mothers to be loyal, reliable and caring and others less so, perhaps because they have not got as much to lose? A mother’s/primary carer’s love might be less self-centred, and more altruistic than others, as there is a strong drive in Mothers/primary carers to assist their children to do better, succeed, go forward in life, than themselves.

What do you think? Would you agree?

How does maternal love differ from other sorts of affections?

 

Something to Ponder About this Thursday

 

Community

Proverbial Thursday – Global Words of Wisdom

I find there to be profound wisdom in proverbs, sayings and quotes and I marvel at the way they are so succinct in communicating messages to the reader.

Mostly anonymous, they come to us from past generations and from across cultures. They speak of the experiences of lives lived and lessons learned. Quotes, like proverbs, make us think more deeply about something.

xanthostemon chrysanthus

Each Thursday, I post a Proverb or Saying and a Quote that I find thought-provoking. 

I hope you will too.

A Bad Worker Quarrels with his Tools –  Chinese Proverb

 

and this:

 

“All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.”

 

“If you look for perfection, you’ll never be content”

Leo Tolstoy, Anna Karenina

I have always thought to do a good job, it is important to have the right tools, but that isn’t always possible, so if we quarrel with the second-rate tools, are we still a bad worker?

I can see a correlation between the two quotes, from Leo Tolstoy. Can you?

I would love to hear your thoughts.

Proverbial sml

Something to Ponder About this Thursday.

 

 

 

Save

Save

Community

Five Minutes of Free Writing – Day 7 Love

This challenge is to write freely for five minutes without editing – on the topics listed on the landing page (link provided below) – one topic each day for 31 days.

Not as easy aswpid-wp-1443948548820.jpeg you think……

LOVE<3 LOVE<3 LOVE<3

I have spoken before about the basic human needs of love and affection being as important as food and shelter, so today I will talk about who/what I love.

  1. Family – when it comes down to it, immediate family are the only people you can ever begin to rely on to be there for you and love you back. It is way too much expectation to place on extended family, at least from my experience, so count on immediate family only. But, this does include the family pet, as it is kind of his/her job, isn’t it?
  2. Home – I have made it my sanctuary, and whilst far from perfect, it is a little oasis filled with mementos and memories, that mean so much to me. Home equates to security.
  3. Travel – to Scandinavia or the beach in particular. Being close to gentle, lapping water can be so therapeutic, and the Scandinavian climate, landscape and scenery are so unique, I feel a special affinity to them.
  4. Painting and traditional art/craft forms – primarily Norwegian Rosemaling and simple renaissance baroque folk art. I am a rosemaler, did I mention that?
  5. Food – Seafood, (who doesn’t love it?), pastries, berries, and bread – need I say more?
  6. Books and Reading – for entertainment and learning ( see #7) Nothing like a good murder mystery – fictional, of course.
  7. Learning new things – Change is inevitable part of life, and we have to keep up. It is not always nice, but it does afford us the opportunity to discover and to re-invent.
  8. Friends – who could live without good friends, in whatever form they take?
  9. Walking in the Early Morning – especially if there is light rain/mist or fog! ( we so rarely have it in my realms, so to me it is special and I just love it.
  10. Forests – essential, absolutely essential, period!
  11. Baking home made treats for my family and friends – see #5 above
  12. Recycling and up-cycling – it is good for the planet
  13. Photography – it freezes that special moment in time for later contemplation
  14. Flowers – they make me happy
  15. Laughing – so good for your health

More days here

1403774789604 (Small)

What do you love? What you love is a large part of who you are. That’s really something to ponder about