It seems that the happiest lives are built on forgiveness and loving kindness that breeds contentment.
If you are forgiving but still unhappy, consider the role you might have taken in life could be triggering unhappiness and discontentment.
Roles in Life Limit our Self-Image
The roles we set for ourselves may define and limit us. Past wrongs or mistakes shape our feelings and our self-image.
Do you identify with any of the following roles in life? Are you:
- The person who tries to control outcomes by making everything perfect
- The son or daughter who is never good enough
- The victim who is repeatedly hurt by others’ words or actions
- The person who is always trying to be pleased so that they may be loved
- The person who starts but never finishes
- The stoic who never feels emotion
- The person who looks for happiness in the external possessions
- The people that emphasize what they do is more important than who they are
- The people that focus on the past and the future -forgetting they are living only in the present.
Underneath we all just want to be loved. Can anyone deny that they want to be loved?
You can change the role you have mentally set for yourself.
“Find the role or roles that suit you best and decline the rest.”
If someone says or does something that upsets you, see beyond their words and actions.
Change your reaction and you change your role in life.
Attitudinal healing looks beyond words and practises forgiveness.
Have you radically changed your attitude to someone close to you with which you had difficulty? How did that work out? I would love to hear your thoughts.