Speaking the truth - is knowing who you are, but is it always the best thing for everybody? "Don't wait around for someone else to tell your story. Do it yourself by whatever means necessary." -Lena Dunham So many around us choose to conceal, hide or change the truth to protect others or enhance ourselves.… Continue reading Sunday Sayings – Truth
Hypocrisy is the essence of snobbery, but all snobbery is about the problem of belonging or exclusiveness. “Some people have such good taste they can't enjoy anything.” ― Marty Rubin “They [Harvard academia] liked the poor, but didn't like the smell of the poor.” ― Chris Hedges “It was culture as class performance, literature fetishised… Continue reading Sunday Sayings – Snobbery and Privilege
Definition of an Ally: - to combine or unite a resource or commodity with (another) for mutual benefit. Allies or Friends can come in many forms. They might support you at the end of the phone, in person, or just by you knowing that they have your back. They make life easier and more pleasant.… Continue reading Sunday Sayings – Allies
Several years ago, I became fascinated with traditional proverbs and sayings, their metaphorical layers and the many different interpretations found within those succinct few words. I marveled at their ability to transcend race, religion, opinions and age. Mostly anonymous, they are a portal through time to generations past and echo a diverse range of cultures, and the experiences of many lessons learned and the wisdom from thousands of lives already lived. They offer us knowledge; knowledge that is passed to us in much the same way relay runners might pass a baton. Once it’s handed over, it is up to us what we do with it and how we pass it on.
Do you sometimes feel misunderstood, or like you just don't fit in? Is socializing painful or something you avoid? Is mixing at a party or large group a torturous experience? If so, you could be suffering from social anxiety? People suffering with this are often introverted by nature and feel that they are constantly being… Continue reading Do You Fit In? Anxiety, Emotions and Friends
How far would you go to prove a point? Have you climbed a mountain to convince the masses? Don't waste your time arguing with idiots, it could cost you your life. Something to ponder about.
From Nigella Feasts on facebook: 4 November 2013 at 21:46 At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady. She started screaming out of fear. With a panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach. Her reaction… Continue reading Have you heard of the Cockroach Theory for Self Development?
Self-respect Self respect is a basic physiological need. If our basic needs for self- respect are not met, we may become depressed, socially anxious, withdrawn or stressed. Marc and Angel has some thoughts on this matter this week: If you ever felt you are not being good enough… Don’t be too hard on yourself. There… Continue reading Self – Respect – Are we good enough for ourselves?
Marc and Angel talk about: Cutting out negative habits. This can make it simpler to foster good relationships by getting to the heart of productive communication, so why not start today? 1. Focusing on your inner monologue instead of the dialogue in front of you. When someone is talking to you, you might be thinking: … Continue reading Negative Social Habits that Impede Communication
Why do we think negatively when we know better?
Because thinking negatively, expecting “the worst,” seeing the downside of positive situations, and even downright expecting failure, all convey a kind of backwards-thinking, emotional insurance policy. It goes something like, “If I expect a tragedy, then I won’t be disappointed when it takes place.”
Our desire to want to be right is another common reason we subconsciously choose negative thinking. Sometimes, as foolish as it sounds, we would rather be right about our negative predictions than have a positive outcome prove us wrong. And since negative thinking leads to negative actions, or no action at all in many cases, by thinking negatively we create a self-fulfilling prediction for ourselves. In other words, we think negatively, predict a negative outcome, act negatively, and then receive a negative outcome that fulfills our prediction.
You are on own journey. But do you measure how successful you are, by you own definitions? Or everyone else's? When you make comparisons, against your friends, family and others, you are bound to feel disappointed, so decide instead to create your own, different measures of success. What does success mean to me? Have you… Continue reading How Successful Are You?