Inner voices determine our mood and form part of our self-concept. There are times when listening to them is useful, but also times when those thoughts do not serve or support us. Credit: Meredith Gaston Some people will interpret a disagreement between two friends as aggression, and react in a defensive way even when it… Continue reading Finding a Kinder Inner Voice
Recently we've been looking at sayings and ways to look at solving problems. How many times has someone vented about their problems and a likely response is, "Why don't you just xxx....[insert their suggested solution]. Notwithstanding there are occasions when someone does directly asks for advice, the act of suggesting solutions to others, rarely succeeds… Continue reading Improving Communication and Problem Solving
"If you set your goals ridiculously high and it's a failure, you will fail above everyone else's success." James Cameron Most of the effort in problem solving is in firstly correctly identifying the real problem. Once it has been identified, a problem becomes much easier to break down into chunks. Find 15 minutes each day… Continue reading Problem Solving
"The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven." -John Milton Mindfulness We hear it all the time. Mindfulness. The advice to practise mindfulness as a way to deal with troublesome thoughts. Why does Mindfulness help? It’s impossible to stay strong when you’re rehashing something… Continue reading Minding our Minds through Mindfulness
How do you treat yourself? We are often harshest in our treatment of ourselves in the way our inner voice reprimands us for making mistakes. Rather than an objective assessment of our actions, we strive for perfection in ourselves, and are disappointed or angry with ourselves if we cannot attain that desired standard. Source: http://forestwoodfolkart.files.wordpress.com/2020/11/58006-1ye5vss3wrvp7nv7b51ldzw.png… Continue reading Dealing with that Inner Voice of Criticism
Carol Burnett once said: Words, once they are printed, have a life of their own. Carol Burnett Carol's quote came to mind recently, when I received some strongly-worded criticism in response to a post I'd made, on a social media group. Whether my words were truth or lies, seemed less relevant than the individual opinions… Continue reading How to Deal with Internet Criticism
Why do we think negatively when we know better? "If I expect the worst, I am pleasantly surprised when something turns out well." Such an approach to life situations, is modus operandi for some members of my family. I do get why people do get into the habit. I used to do this myself. Some… Continue reading Playing the Devil’s Advocate
Writing down your thoughts and feelings can be cathartic. Recently I was given a journal of self-exploration, and it challenged me to circle the things that are most important to me in my life. Things I really value above all else. The trouble is I am prone to over- analysis. What is important to you?… Continue reading The Things you Value and Are Important
There can only be one thing more nightmarish than hell itself, and that is to lose a child to suicide. Gut-wrenchingly sad and tragic that a young life is lost. Gut-wrenchingly sad and tragic that the person has felt such emptiness and despair. Gut-wrenchingly sad and tragic that someone could feel so lacking in hope, consumed with mental pain and anguish that this was even considered an option. And yet for their own family, who are left somehow to pick up the pieces, the consequences of this act can be so viscerally devastating, it is akin to a nightmare without end. Is it a selfish act? An aberrant impulse? A distorted or dysfunctional thought?
Do you sometimes feel misunderstood, or like you just don't fit in? Is socializing painful or something you avoid? Is mixing at a party or large group a torturous experience? If so, you could be suffering from social anxiety? People suffering with this are often introverted by nature and feel that they are constantly being… Continue reading Do You Fit In? Anxiety, Emotions and Friends
"Food is life. And that's the problem. When you're alive, people can hurt you. It's easier to crawl into a bone cage or a snowdrift of confusion. It's easier to lock everybody out.
But it's a lie.”
How far would you go to prove a point? Have you climbed a mountain to convince the masses? Don't waste your time arguing with idiots, it could cost you your life. Something to ponder about.
Charlotte Dawson's tragic death, reminded me of a recent campaign that highlighted the issue of mental illness, primarily depression and suicide, in our community. The R U OK? Foundation is a not-for-profit organization dedicated to encouraging all people to regularly and meaningfully ask 'are you ok?' as a support to colleagues and those who may… Continue reading Are You OK?