Why do we think negatively when we know better? "If I expect the worst, I am pleasantly surprised when something turns out well." Such an approach to life situations, is modus operandi for some members of my family. I do get why people do get into the habit. I used to do this myself. Some… Continue reading Playing the Devil’s Advocate
Writing down your thoughts and feelings can be cathartic. Recently I was given a journal of self-exploration, and it challenged me to circle the things that are most important to me in my life. Things I really value above all else. The trouble is I am prone to over- analysis. What is important to you?… Continue reading The Things you Value and Are Important
There can only be one thing more nightmarish than hell itself, and that is to lose a child to suicide. Gut-wrenchingly sad and tragic that a young life is lost. Gut-wrenchingly sad and tragic that the person has felt such emptiness and despair. Gut-wrenchingly sad and tragic that someone could feel so lacking in hope, consumed with mental pain and anguish that this was even considered an option. And yet for their own family, who are left somehow to pick up the pieces, the consequences of this act can be so viscerally devastating, it is akin to a nightmare without end. Is it a selfish act? An aberrant impulse? A distorted or dysfunctional thought?
Do you sometimes feel misunderstood, or like you just don't fit in? Is socializing painful or something you avoid? Is mixing at a party or large group a torturous experience? If so, you could be suffering from social anxiety? People suffering with this are often introverted by nature and feel that they are constantly being… Continue reading Do You Fit In? Anxiety, Emotions and Friends
"Food is life. And that's the problem. When you're alive, people can hurt you. It's easier to crawl into a bone cage or a snowdrift of confusion. It's easier to lock everybody out.
But it's a lie.”
How far would you go to prove a point? Have you climbed a mountain to convince the masses? Don't waste your time arguing with idiots, it could cost you your life. Something to ponder about.
Charlotte Dawson's tragic death, reminded me of a recent campaign that highlighted the issue of mental illness, primarily depression and suicide, in our community. The R U OK? Foundation is a not-for-profit organization dedicated to encouraging all people to regularly and meaningfully ask 'are you ok?' as a support to colleagues and those who may… Continue reading Are You OK?
It is so very easy to follow routines every day, release the brakes on the weekends, or days off, and let "life [be], what happens to you, while you're busy making other plans", as John Lennon famously sang. If you look back and find too much time has passed by without you really being aware… Continue reading Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans
Socialising does not come easily for everyone. As hard as they try.... For some people, social anxiety and harassment comes hand in hand and bullying can take place at school, home and in the workplace. How they cope or don't cope with it, can have a huge impact on their lives. My son is still… Continue reading How to Stop Worrying about What People Think – social anxiety and bullying
From Nigella Feasts on facebook: 4 November 2013 at 21:46 At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady. She started screaming out of fear. With a panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach. Her reaction… Continue reading Have you heard of the Cockroach Theory for Self Development?
Self-respect Self respect is a basic physiological need. If our basic needs for self- respect are not met, we may become depressed, socially anxious, withdrawn or stressed. Marc and Angel has some thoughts on this matter this week: If you ever felt you are not being good enough… Don’t be too hard on yourself. There… Continue reading Self – Respect – Are we good enough for ourselves?
"Letting go of the past is your first step towards happiness. You are not your past failures. You are not your past habits. You are not how others have at one time treated you. You are only who you think you are right now in this moment. You are only what you do right now… Continue reading Wise Words from Marc and Angel
Are your habits and routines sucking up your happiness?
Oftentimes we unknowingly hold on to little, obsessive habits that cause us a great deal of stress and unhappiness. Even when we feel that something is wrong, we fail to seek the changes we need to make and instead cling to what’s not working, simply because it’s what we’re accustomed to. It is familiarity, that makes us feel secure, whilst causing us unnecessary stress. It’s time to give up the habits that no longer serve your well-being and embrace the positive changes you need to be happy.
Today is the perfect day to give up…
1. Worrying about… everything.