Exposure to a stressful or traumatic situation doesn’t determine your mental wellbeing as much as how you interpret the situation. For it is your own idiosyncratic response to the situation that determines your mental state.
The Hyper or Highly Sensitive Person
Almost 20% of people have hypersensitive nervous systems that process things differently to others. They feel and think more deeply, are often intensely compassionate and might become over-stimulated and stressed much more easily, than others. They are more vulnerable to chronic muscle tension and fatigue.
The highly sensitive person might feel solated, misunderstood or different to others. In the past, they may have been labelled, “highly strung.” Now they might be referred to as, ‘weak, emotional, or even broken.’
Albert Einstein, Martin Luther King, and Steve Jobs were highly sensitive people who used their work to hide a sensory processing sensitivity.
“To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is the characteristic of a compassionate human being – one that nurtures a caring, humane world. Never be ashamed to let your feelings, smiles and tears shine a light in this world. Why you mull over slights that ought to be forgotten. Why subtleties are magnified for you and yet lost on others.
There is zero shame in expressing your authentic feelings.
Marc and Angel
Self-help Strategies to Deal with Sensitivity
- Recognize your strengths and acknowledge what you HAVE achieved
- Seek out kindred spirits.
- Acknowledge the negative, but aim to focus towards the positive and search for those hidden positives in every situation, no matter how small.
- Avoid negative environments as they will make you suffer more.
- Treat yourself and others with compassion.
- Change your thinking on perceived hidden flaws. Accept yourself and others by reframing your past misconceptions in terms of intuition, conscientiousness and vision.
- Mindfulness and meditation techniques may help to decrease the intensity of your reactions to the content of your thoughts.
- Challenge yourself to react to a stressful situation in a different way. Not everything counts.