Why do we think negatively when we know better? "If I expect the worst, I am pleasantly surprised when something turns out well." Such an approach to life situations, is modus operandi for some members of my family. I do get why people do get into the habit. I used to do this myself. Some… Continue reading Playing the Devil’s Advocate
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Marc and Angel talk about: Cutting out negative habits. This can make it simpler to foster good relationships by getting to the heart of productive communication, so why not start today? 1. Focusing on your inner monologue instead of the dialogue in front of you. When someone is talking to you, you might be thinking: … Continue reading Negative Social Habits that Impede Communication
Why do we think negatively when we know better?
Because thinking negatively, expecting “the worst,” seeing the downside of positive situations, and even downright expecting failure, all convey a kind of backwards-thinking, emotional insurance policy. It goes something like, “If I expect a tragedy, then I won’t be disappointed when it takes place.”
Our desire to want to be right is another common reason we subconsciously choose negative thinking. Sometimes, as foolish as it sounds, we would rather be right about our negative predictions than have a positive outcome prove us wrong. And since negative thinking leads to negative actions, or no action at all in many cases, by thinking negatively we create a self-fulfilling prediction for ourselves. In other words, we think negatively, predict a negative outcome, act negatively, and then receive a negative outcome that fulfills our prediction.
It is all too common. We make comparisons, with other people around us, other people who we perceive to be more confident, more successful, happier, than we are. It is a trap that perpetuates an internal struggle with insecurities.
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