The Spotlight Effect, Sales, Social Phobia and Anxiety

Research has shown that many people drastically overestimate the effect they have on others and surprisingly this so-called "Spotlight effect", has relevance both for the way we select items for purchase, and for those folk who feel anxious in social situations. The Anchoring Effect and Comparison It has been observed in studies that when judging…

Playing the Devil’s Advocate

Why do we think negatively when we know better? "If I expect the worst, I am pleasantly surprised when something turns out well." Such an approach to life situations, is modus operandi for some members of my family. I do get why people do get into the habit. I used to do this myself. Some…

Proverbial Thursday – Global Words of Wisdom

I find there to be profound wisdom in proverbs, sayings and quotes and I marvel at the way they are so succinct in communicating messages to the reader. Mostly anonymous, they come to us from past generations and from across cultures. They speak of the experiences of lives lived and lessons learned. Valuable life lessons. …

Do You Fit In? Anxiety, Emotions and Friends

Do you sometimes feel misunderstood, or like you just don't fit in? Is socializing painful or something you avoid? Is mixing at a party or large group a torturous experience? If so, you could be suffering from social anxiety? People suffering with this are often introverted by nature and feel that they are constantly being…

How to Stop Worrying about What People Think – social anxiety and bullying

Socialising does not come easily for everyone. As hard as they try.... For some people, social anxiety and harassment comes hand in hand and bullying can take place at school, home and in the workplace. How they cope or don't cope with it, can have a huge impact on their lives. My son is still…

Meeting New People

Conversation, How to meet and talk with New People. Useful Opening Questions for Social Skills and sufferers of Social anxiety