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Sunday Sayings – Resilience and Success

Weekly Quote

“A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him.”

-David Brinkley

Weekly Proverb

If your only tool is a hammer, you will see every problem as a nail. — Gambian proverb

Resilience

A recent article suggests that those who can weather the storms of life have the ability to perceive events in a different way to those who feel stressed and negatively impacted by trauma and life’s challenges.

Whether you can be said to have resilience, or not, might depend on the way your life unfolds. If you are lucky and never experience any adversity, you don’t really know for sure how resilient you might be. When you come across obstacles stress and environmental threats, you discover how well you can cope with life’s challenges.

Reacting to Stress

Do you see a stressful event as traumatic, or a problem? Or is it a chance to learn and grow?

Why do some kids thrive in awful circumstances and yet others crumble despite hailing from more comfortable backgrounds?

Predictors of Resilience in Children

Who will be resilient?

According to the article, support networks are essential to resilience. A strong bond with a supportive caregiver, parent, teacher, or other mentor, who believed in them tended to be more resilient, when life threw them a curve ball.

Children displaying the following strengths were also noted to be more resilient: [Source: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2956753/%5D

  • mature, autonomous and independent
  • were naturally curious
  • used whatever skills they had effectively
  • belief it was themselves, not their circumstances, that affected their achievements
  • strategies to deal with stress
  • a talent or hobby valued by others
  • a sense of humour
  • responded well to others
  • tolerated negativity
  • well developed decision making, reading and planning
  • a balanced perspective of experience
  • hopefulness
  • flexible but tenacious

In short, “The resilient children saw themselves as orchestrators of their own fates.

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The final saying today comes from Janet over at This, that and the other thing:

To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.

Discussion

Do you see yourself as the master of your own destiny?

Join in the conversation. All comments are welcome.

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Proverbial Friday – Global Wisdom

Contemplation

I find there to be profound wisdom in proverbs, sayings and quotes and I marvel at the way they are so succinct in communicating messages to the reader. Mostly anonymous, they come to us from past generations and from across cultures. They speak of the experiences of lives lived and lessons learned. Quotes, like proverbs, make us think more deeply about something.

Each Friday, I post a Proverb or Saying and a Quote that I find thought-provoking. 

I hope you will too.

The proverb, I have chosen to examine, this week is not listed as coming from any particular region of the world so that means it must have universal meaning. Right?

The dog that quits barking can get some sleep.

~ Traditional Proverb

Does it have universal meaning for you? What do you see as its meaning?

Are we always on alert, like the watch dog? Do we lack sleep or restful down time due to our vigilance? If so, vigilance over what, in particular? Jobs, family, children, religious rituals?

What is the proverb warning us about?

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In honour of Australia’s  Anzac Day, I have chosen the following quote:

“If I had to take hell.

I would choose the Australians to take it, and the New Zealanders to hold it!”

~ Erwin Rommel

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However, for those for whom Anzac day holds no significance, there is this quote, in the current series from Ancient Greek philosophers:

“Reality is created by the mind, we can change our reality by changing our mind.” –Plato

Is seeing reality really perceiving the truth?

The message in Plato’s quote, was discussed, somewhat obliquely in the commentary, with blogger Mabel Kwong, last week. You can find it here if you wish to read the back story.

Please join in the discussion by leaving a comment.

Proverbial Friday really giving you Something to Ponder About

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Proverbial Friday – Global Wisdom

I find there to be profound wisdom in proverbs, sayings and quotes and I marvel at the way they are so succinct in communicating messages to the reader. Mostly anonymous, they come to us from past generations and from across cultures. They speak of the experiences of lives lived and lessons learned. Quotes, like proverbs, make us think more deeply about something.

Each Friday, I post a Proverb or Saying and a Quote that I find thought-provoking. 

I hope you will too.

 

Failure is something we all encounter in our lives.

 

 

Failure is simply a step towards success as they wise words relate:

 

Don’t stop sowing just because the birds ate a few seeds. ~ Danish Proverb

 

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Accepting its place in your life as a teacher, and moving forward despite failure, is echoed in the same theme:-

 

 

“Falling down is not a failure. Failure comes when you stay where you have fallen.” –Socrates

 

 

 Mary Tyler Moore, a woman ahead of her time told us to :-

“Take chances, make mistakes.  That’s how you grow.  Pain nourishes your courage.  You have to fail in order to practice being brave.”

 

Whilst Marilyn vos Savant reminds us that:-

“Being defeated is often a temporary condition.  Giving up is what makes it permanent.”

 

Several notable figures through history has reinforced that failure is not falling down; failure is staying down when you have the chance to get back up. Then why are we so hell-bent on creating perfection?

Failure just means you have found a way that doesn’t work, and if you get hung up on every failed attempt, you will miss every new opportunity that comes your way.

 

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All failures are just stepping-stones along your journey to success.

 

 

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How do you handle failure?

Join in the discussion by leaving a comment.

 

Proverbial Friday – Something to Ponder Positively About

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How Successful Are You?

You are on own journey. But do you measure how successful you are, by you own definitions? Or everyone else’s?

When you make comparisons, against your friends, family and others, you are bound to feel disappointed, so decide instead to create your own, different measures of success.

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What does success mean to me?

Have you ever honestly asked yourself this question?  Or have you simply adopted your priorities from everyone around you?

Are you crystal clear on what success means for you?

Here are a six ways you could measure success:

  • Are you a Fortune 500 CEO, or in line to become one?
  • Have you won any political campaigns?
  • Have you won any international athletic competitions?  Do you hold any world records?
  • Have you won a Grammy Award?  A Nobel Prize?
  • Do people turn their heads when they see your car?
  • Does your smartphone contacts database have more than 10 celebrities in it?

Here are a six other ways you could measure success:

  • Have you dropped everything to help a friend in need?
  • Did you do any favors today for complete strangers?
  • Have you recently listened to someone else’s story without talking about yourself?
  • Have you spoken up against friends, family and authority figures that were in the wrong by their words or actions?  Even when it was hard to do so?
  • Have you kept silent when you knew you were right, knowing that an argument would be useless?
  • Have you been patient, compassionate, and gentle toward those who have wronged you?  Define yourself, by your own terms. Ponder these wise words from Marc and Angel.Image