“The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.”Marcus Aurelius
If you think of yourself as the best thing since sliced bread, that will become your reality.
Likewise, if you think you are broken, or a failure, then in all likelihood, you will feel broken and miserable.
If you feel you have some faults but are working hard to improve them, you might also feel differently.
Individual thoughts become your reality.
If you feel the future is hopeless, it is extremely hard to find a solution.
Even if your reality is realistic and accurate, intrusive thoughts have a way of sneaking into our mental vocabulary. Ann Koplow had some great pointers to remedy those. Perhaps it is useful strategies for all of us?
Challenge Labels. If you label yourself negatively, such as “a fool” or “a loser,” remind yourself that such absolute terms are subjective and meaningless, and that human beings are too complex to be reduced that simplistically. Also, consider the possibility that somebody else may have given you that idea about yourself, and that they were wrong.
Reality testing. Ask people questions to find out if your thoughts and concerns are realistic or true. This is a particularly effective response to the distortion of mind-reading.
Thought stopping. If you notice an unhelpful thought, cut it off immediately. Typical techniques include visualizing a big stop sign, saying “STOP!” to yourself, and giving yourself a sensory cue (e.g. snapping a rubber band you wear around your wrist). A “gentler” version of this is to notice an unhelpful thought and tell yourself, “That’s just a thought.”https://annkoplow.wordpress.com
Something to Ponder About this Sunday