Everyone wants to avoid it and minimise it where possible.
Suffering and moments of sadness may be part of life and our own journey. Some people experience much more suffering and sadness than others.
For there is no equity in suffering.
How best to deal with these lingering difficulties?
According to Buddha: No attachment equals no suffering. Does this knowledge help us process suffering or sadness?
Yes and No.
If the suffering pertains to a family member or their situation, detaching from them is not possible, at least emotionally.
Marlane suggests nothing will ever fade from our thoughts until we have learnt what we need to know. In other words, suffering never goes away from our minds until we learn from it. Then suffering dissolves. If we accept the outcome, however uncomfortable, the suffering lessens.
Suffering ceases when we accept what is and begin to work with it. Suffering teaches us what we need to know. www.marlaneainsworth.com
Eliminating suffering does not mean we won’t feel sad. Sadness may linger, but in broad acceptance of a situation or person’s outcome, we do not actively rail against it, dissect it, and contemplate how unfair or unjust it may or may not be.
Those, “if only I had …..” moments inadvertently prolong suffering.
When there is no solution, and action is impossible, acceptance and forgiveness can provide a way forward to address suffering for many of us. Easy to say but harder to absorb.
The reality of life is that everything is temporary.
A wise Norwegian saying states:
“Everything passes, like bad weather.”
Somerset Maugham realised this:
Nothing in the world is permanent, and we’re foolish when we ask anything to last, but surely we’re still more foolish not to take delight in it while we have it ~ Somerset Maugham
Whilst many of us might resent ‘change,’ for making happy times transitory, change can also move us and the earth forward from more difficult times to hopefully more promising times.