“A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him.”-David Brinkley
If your only tool is a hammer, you will see every problem as a nail. — Gambian proverb
A recent article suggests that those who can weather the storms of life have the ability to perceive events in a different way to those who feel stressed and negatively impacted by trauma and life’s challenges.
Whether you can be said to have resilience, or not, might depend on the way your life unfolds. If you are lucky and never experience any adversity, you don’t really know for sure how resilient you might be. When you come across obstacles stress and environmental threats, you discover how well you can cope with life’s challenges.
Reacting to Stress
Do you see a stressful event as traumatic, or a problem? Or is it a chance to learn and grow?
Why do some kids thrive in awful circumstances and yet others crumble despite hailing from more comfortable backgrounds?
Predictors of Resilience in Children
Who will be resilient?
According to the article, support networks are essential to resilience. A strong bond with a supportive caregiver, parent, teacher, or other mentor, who believed in them tended to be more resilient, when life threw them a curve ball.
Children displaying the following strengths were also noted to be more resilient: [Source: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2956753/%5D
- mature, autonomous and independent
- were naturally curious
- used whatever skills they had effectively
- belief it was themselves, not their circumstances, that affected their achievements
- strategies to deal with stress
- a talent or hobby valued by others
- a sense of humour
- responded well to others
- tolerated negativity
- well developed decision making, reading and planning
- a balanced perspective of experience
- flexible but tenacious
In short, “The resilient children saw themselves as orchestrators of their own fates.“newyorker.com/science/maria-konnikova/the-secret-formula-for-resilience
The final saying today comes from Janet over at This, that and the other thing:
To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.
Do you see yourself as the master of your own destiny?
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