Research has shown that many people drastically overestimate the effect they have on others and surprisingly this so-called "Spotlight effect", has relevance both for the way we select items for purchase, and for those folk who feel anxious in social situations. The Anchoring Effect and Comparison It has been observed in studies that when judging… Continue reading The Spotlight Effect, Sales, Social Phobia and Anxiety
Recently we've been looking at sayings and ways to look at solving problems. How many times has someone vented about their problems and a likely response is, "Why don't you just xxx....[insert their suggested solution]. Notwithstanding there are occasions when someone does directly asks for advice, the act of suggesting solutions to others, rarely succeeds… Continue reading Improving Communication and Problem Solving
No one can climb a tree with no branches - Finnish proverb What do you think the underlying message says. Does it refer to the support of friends and family that folk find so essential to personal growth and development? Or, could it refer to the many divergent paths one might consider, or does take… Continue reading Worldly Wisdom
Gode ord skal du hogge i berg, de dårligere i snø.Carve your good words in stone, the bad in snow.Old Norwegian Proverb I do love the way old words of wisdom offer us a way forward when we are stuck in our heads, with thoughts that do us no good at all. Old proverbs offer… Continue reading Criticism and Feeling Positive
Guilty feelings are different from shameful feelings, although they can overlap. How do you deal with guilt or guilt manipulation by others in your circle? How have you reached acceptance?
How do you deal with guilty feelings or guilt manipulation from others?
And, how do you view safety and growth?
Can these qualities operate simultaneously or are they oppositional?